One major lesson I learned this year is that you can’t keep giving yourself to someone who isn’t going to give you their whole self to you. What I am I mean by that is if you were showing someone the kind of effort that you wish to be shown, you’re only going to get hurt in the end. Not everyone is going to treat you how you want to be treated; not everyone is going to be there for you 24/7 like how you want them or expect them to, and not everyone is going to be your best friend or your soulmate.
1. Cut off contact.
Do this at least for a little while. A friendship may eventually be possible, but being friends can’t happen in a genuine way until you have healed through most if not all of the pain, which takes time. Being your own best friend is what is most important during a difficult break-up and that means not putting yourself in situations that don’t lead to feeling good. When you are hurting, you are vulnerable. Protecting yourself with healthy boundaries is an essential part of good self-care. Politely let your ex know you need your space and would prefer not to be in contact for the time being. (Don’t ghost them.)
2. 4. Know it is OK to still like/love them.
Love is never wrong. When someone comes into your life who allows you the opportunity to experience love, that is always a true gift. Part of maturity, however, is recognizing that love by itself isn’t always enough to make a relationship work. But moving on from a relationship that isn’t working isn’t always about ending the love you feel. Sometimes the only way to let go is to love someone enough to want the best for him or her even if that means not being together.
3. Make peace with the past.
When someone treats you poorly or does something hurtful, it is a natural and healthy response to feel some anger. Anger helps you be aware of situations that are not in your best interest and can facilitate the separation process from an unhealthy relationship. But when we hold on to anger and resentment from past experiences we take them with us into the future. Nothing hurts more than when someone you love does something that causes you to reevaluate who you believed them to be. When someone betrays the trust you gave, it is painful. But letting what someone else did limit your ability to move forward means they still exert control over your life. Forgiveness isn’t about letting someone else off the hook for his or her bad behavior; it is about your emotional freedom.
I could literally go on and on about today’s topic but I’ll keep it short with a few examples on how to improve ones self.
Getting feedback from others is a great way to know what you can improve on. It’s always helpful to get advice from those you care about.
For example if a friendship isn’t working out, you can figure out if there is anything you’re doing wrong to improve yourself and that friendship as well. Communication in all areas is so important. Whether it be in relationships or friendships it’s good to get things that bother or don’t bother you out in the open. If we dont communicate then we will never really be aware of how someone else is feeling or what we can take away from the conversations that we have.
Healthy lifestyles are another form of self improvement. Knowing what you need to do to improve your life physically can be very important.
This is all I have for today’s post. I hope it helps at least one person out!
1: Girls love when a guy is interested in their likes and dislikes.
2: Girls love when a guy is honest and open about their feelings, etc.
3: Girls love to be surprised once in awhile.
4: Girls love when guys ask advice from them.
5: Girls like a guy who can protect them and make them feel safe.
6: Girls don’t like guys who are controlling or demanding.
7: If a girl really wants to be with a guy she’ll make sure it happens.
8: Girls love romantic guys. Show her a good time fellas!
9: Girls want to feel that you’re proud for having them.
10: Girls adore guys who don’t just think about sex.
For today’s post I thought that I would share something that might be helpful for those in negative situations. I’m gonna be talking about being in toxic relationships or friendships. This could be as little as clingyness or as big as abuse. Sometimes letting go can be very difficult especially if you’re close with the person. Believe me I’m known for holding on to things that I know I shouldn’t but I’ve learned that it’s better to keep around those who bring you joy than to keep around those who only bring you pain. Before you end things however try and talk things out. Sometimes that works because the other person may not know that what they are doing is causing stress in your life. Give examples of how they can improve to make things easier on you. If that doesn’t work than consider letting go. About a year or so ago my friend decided to end a friendship and that friendship was between her and I. I was very confused cause she never told me why she was letting me go she just did. This is why communication is very important. Always remember that letting go will be hard but give it some time and I promise things will become easier as time goes on. This can lead to a positive outcome. Don’t ever be afraid to stop what’s causing hurt and don’t let someone stay in your life when they no longer belong.