One major lesson I learned this year is that you can’t keep giving yourself to someone who isn’t going to give you their whole self to you. What I am I mean by that is if you were showing someone the kind of effort that you wish to be shown, you’re only going to get hurt in the end. Not everyone is going to treat you how you want to be treated; not everyone is going to be there for you 24/7 like how you want them or expect them to, and not everyone is going to be your best friend or your soulmate.
1. Cut off contact.
Do this at least for a little while. A friendship may eventually be possible, but being friends can’t happen in a genuine way until you have healed through most if not all of the pain, which takes time. Being your own best friend is what is most important during a difficult break-up and that means not putting yourself in situations that don’t lead to feeling good. When you are hurting, you are vulnerable. Protecting yourself with healthy boundaries is an essential part of good self-care. Politely let your ex know you need your space and would prefer not to be in contact for the time being. (Don’t ghost them.)
2. 4. Know it is OK to still like/love them.
Love is never wrong. When someone comes into your life who allows you the opportunity to experience love, that is always a true gift. Part of maturity, however, is recognizing that love by itself isn’t always enough to make a relationship work. But moving on from a relationship that isn’t working isn’t always about ending the love you feel. Sometimes the only way to let go is to love someone enough to want the best for him or her even if that means not being together.
3. Make peace with the past.
When someone treats you poorly or does something hurtful, it is a natural and healthy response to feel some anger. Anger helps you be aware of situations that are not in your best interest and can facilitate the separation process from an unhealthy relationship. But when we hold on to anger and resentment from past experiences we take them with us into the future. Nothing hurts more than when someone you love does something that causes you to reevaluate who you believed them to be. When someone betrays the trust you gave, it is painful. But letting what someone else did limit your ability to move forward means they still exert control over your life. Forgiveness isn’t about letting someone else off the hook for his or her bad behavior; it is about your emotional freedom.
Sometimes we have to put others first in situations. Other times we have to make sacrifices we those for those we love and care about. It’s not always an easy thing to do in fact it’s very hard but sometimes it’s worth it because they’re worth it. For example long distance relationships puts a huge strain on both partners but it’s something that is completely worth it because you love and care about them. No matter what the distance is, it will not tear you guys apart. Another example would be not hearing from someone you care about in awhile. Patience is a big factor in all of this and it’s very important to be patient while waiting for their return. Never give up! It’ll be hard but once the wait is over, everything will worth while in the end.
1: Baby animals lol
2: Handwritten notes from friends
3: When others are happy
4: Late night phone calls
5: Hugging someone I love
6: Unexpected gifts or surprises
7: Being shown that someone cares for me
8: Listening to an old song
9: When something amazing happens
10: When I get something done.
1: Girls love when a guy is interested in their likes and dislikes.
2: Girls love when a guy is honest and open about their feelings, etc.
3: Girls love to be surprised once in awhile.
4: Girls love when guys ask advice from them.
5: Girls like a guy who can protect them and make them feel safe.
6: Girls don’t like guys who are controlling or demanding.
7: If a girl really wants to be with a guy she’ll make sure it happens.
8: Girls love romantic guys. Show her a good time fellas!
9: Girls want to feel that you’re proud for having them.
10: Girls adore guys who don’t just think about sex.